“We are never so vulnerable as when we love”
- Sigmund Freud -
“We are never as safe and strong as when we are sure we are loved”
- Dr Sue Johnson -
Often, it’s not that couples in distress don’t love each other, it’s that they don’t know any other way to respond to each other in the face of emotional turmoil as a result of not getting the love they need or want from each other. In desperate attempts to put things right without knowing how, couples often get locked into patterns of disconnection characterized by blame, criticism, defence, demands and withdrawal. It’s little wonder that getting heard and understood by each other becomes difficult and at times impossible.
Emotionally Focused Therapy gets right to the core of relationship issues. It provides a highly structured and scientifically validated approach for navigating the powerful emotional world of relationship dynamics. EFT closely examines and identifies your patterns of relating and this is key to facilitating a deeper understanding of what’s going on between you, what's keeping you stuck and how to bring about change.
In EFT, you can get to know you better in the relationship and gain new insight and understanding of your partner. You can begin to have new conversations with each other, where you each feel heard and understood. Conversations that get to the heart of what really matters for each of you, where you both can feel more connected with each other.